Kevin McCall and J. Holiday participate in "The Blame Game: Black Women Edition

.​The last full week in January 2018 has been deemed "The Blame Game: Black Women Edition."

From the reprise of the John Grey's clip, "Be Delivered from the Spirit of Girlfriend," to two Black male music artist Black female bashing, Black women can't get a break.

In videos that have resurfaced on social media: Kevin McCall and J. Holiday gave us a piece of their mind on Black women: 

Kevin McCall stated:

"The issue in the Black community right now is a dating issue and a parenting issue, specifically for Black women because my mother was a Black woman...Women, y'all need to stop putting this white man and this job before yourself, before your destiny, before your children. And then you wonder why ni**as can't really rock with you like that cause you trying to do our job."

And J. Holiday had this to say: 

 “So apparently, the Black man is still losing to the women. I get it. No disrespect. I was raised by a woman. I have two older sisters. I have absolute, all respect for Black women. But with that being said, understand this, man. Black men, African American men, men from the hood, we go through everything to make sure that who we care about are taken care of. We don’t swing our dicks around. We don’t do all this bullsh*t to be seen. I could be that n*gga over here f*cking n*ggas up. I know a whole lot of b*tch a** n*ggas that sing that I could call they a** the f*ck out. But I don’t. And understand this, I got daughters, man.Cardi, Beyoncé, SZA all y’all muthaf*ckas stop using that f*cking pain to make it ok to say some f*ck sh*t on your record and get nominated for a Grammy for going through some bullsh*t cuz so have I as a Black muthaf*cking man.”

I'm not sure what satisfaction some Black men get out of telling Black women everything they feel is "wrong" with the Black woman. I think deep down inside some Black men are displacing their insecurities on us. Black women are the most abundant group obtaining college degrees and the fastest growing group to start businesses. We are winning, some of us without a man present and that hurts the ego of some Black men who then suddenly become relationship experts who then, blame Black women for everything wrong in Black love. Most of their arguments are futile that stems from abused egos that have suffered years without an outlet.

Black men pride themselves on being strong, but many of them equate that with not showing emotion, often referring to a Black man who does as a "b*tch a** n*gga". The lack of emotion and the hypermasculinity breeds unresolved issues which are deflected on to the Black women. I pray that Black men begin to uncover truths about themselves and their feelings and learn how to deal with the issues of powerlessness imposed on them by a racist and oppressive society. Only then, can they heal from centuries of pain, become accountable, and move forward toward growth and love.

One man, in particular, can attest to the healing powers of therapy and understand the pain of Black women:

Until these Black female bashing, pseudo-psychologist, relationship experts get it together, just gain insight and advice from Kanye West:​

And I always find, yeah,
I always find something wrong
You been putting up with my shit just way too long
I'm so gifted at finding what I don't like the most
So I think it's time for us to have a toast

Let's have a toast for the douchebags,
Let's have a toast for the assholes,
Let's have a toast for the scumbags,
Everyone of them that I know
Let's have a toast for the jerk-offs
That'll never take work off
Baby, I got a plan
Run away fast as you can
- Kayne West on "Run Away"

When you are faced with a misogynistic, emotionally damaged Black Man who wants to impose his deep-rooted issues on you, run away!